How to not let Facebook ruin your romantic relationship

Here in Brazil it’s nearly Valentine’s Day, and today we present a recent research study to give you some hints and cautions about using Facebook if you are in a romantic relationship.

This study will be published in the coming issue of the Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking. This is a new breed of professional journal that publishes serious research regarding modern social behavior involving the internet, and some recent articles include:

Can Online Chat Rooms and “Cyberhugs” Help Chronic Pain Sufferers Cope?

Can Therapy Using Robots Reduce Pain and Anxiety among Pediatric Patients?

Can post-breakup Facebook surveillance delay emotional recovery?

You can click on any of those titles to read the article. Today though let us consider the Facebook-relationship study from the University of Hawaii (Hilo, USA) and St. Mary’s University (San Antonio, Texas, USA).

These researchers surveyed 205 Facebook users between the ages of 18 and 82 (79% currently involved in a romantic relationship) about how they used Facebook, and if Facebook had contributed to relationship conflicts. From this, the researchers gave advice about how to minimize problems.

One of the principal researchers, doctoral candidate Russell Clayton, summed up their findings:

Previous research has shown that the more a person in a romantic relationship uses Facebook, the more likely they are to monitor their partner’s Facebook activity more stringently, which can lead to feelings of jealousy…Facebook-induced jealousy may lead to arguments concerning past partners. Also, our study found that excessive Facebook users are more likely to connect or reconnect with other Facebook users, including previous partners, which may lead to emotional and physical cheating.

They discovered that excessive Facebook use was especially damaging to newer couples—those with a history of less than three years. (Note that they defined “excessive” Facebook use as checking Facebook more than once an hour during the day).

Couples with a longer history, with more mature relationships, were not as susceptible to the negative Facebook effects.  Clayton recommends: “Cutting back to moderate, healthy levels of Facebook usage could help reduce conflict, particularly for newer couples who are still learning about each other.”

Our easy availability of social networks presents us with great new opportunities, but this facility also brings new challenges and risks to existing relationships. Indeed, a 2012 survey of divorce lawyers in the UK showed that conflicts regarding social networks played a role in about a third of all divorces there.

To help maximize the chance your relationship will last, it is probably wise for couples to discuss their social networking habits honestly and openly early in the relationship, and work towards paying more attention to their partner, and less time to social networking.

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